Do not define me by my gender or race or popular opinion, but by my basic human rights as a parent.
Hello Male Parents, I wish you well and hope you know that your not at all alone. Life can give us skills whether we want them or not. In time, every father facing custody and court cases involving family law will develop a ‘thicker skin’ as we all know that nothing is more personal then an attack against your human rights, your rights as a parent and your ability to parent a child.I would like to express a very important concept today. This is extremely bold and progressive. I believe their is no ‘movements’ in the world today to change the opinion of culture in the way that will actually build up momentum.I would like to give you an example. (the example is not aimed to defame or harm homosexual couples in any way, simply a random example.)Equality for homosexual relationships in the USA have become popular.Single Male parents seeking Equality in Custody and Family law is NOT.
Who do you believe will be the first to win Public approval in the equality of raising children?A large portion of Society will back gay rights to have two males or two females raise a child… Will Society recognize the human rights of a Male parent to have ABSOLUTE EQUALITY in custody decisions or family court?The reason behind this is because Gay rights do not threaten the power of women as much as the concept ‘ MAN VS WOMAN ‘When I started to think about this in depth, I realized that all the titles ‘Fathers rights’ are actually a way of setting your self apart from the majority of people who are actually in favor in society and doing more work to make and change laws. You can go out in your yard and wave a giant flag ‘TEAM MEN!’ then go into society against ‘team women’ and see how big the teams are…
The real team we should all be one is ‘ TEAM EQUALITY FOR PARENTS ‘ using Human rights and a ‘gender-less’ approach to rights as a parent. This way you are not allowing society to put you on the small team. You are a parent… the same way you are a Human (EQUAL). Many arguments are made based on age and gender. ‘for the best interests of the child’ should NEVER be used as a justification to disregard the rights of a parent. The best interests of a child is just a term that was created by a person, made popular in litigation and put into law as a strong tactic to redirect focus and manipulate the overall outcome of a case. A 4 year old is NOT going to remember being taken away from his/her mother in the same respects as a parent that loses his/her child. Day to day memories, complex thought process, life and all that we as adults have to do to live is drastically effected and sometimes destroyed by the term ‘in the best interests of the child’. A child’s best interest is Equality & Human rights. Infact.. you.. yes you.. reading this.. were you a child? Are you suffering loss right now? are you hurting? do you see a broken legal system that effects you because your gender? Are you best interest still important to the court? NO…In the BEST interest of Human Rights and Equality, as a parent, I advocate on the equal rights of a child and parents to eliminate any gender bias or popular cultural opinions about any parent. In law and to the world I am a Human and parent first… Do not judge me by my gender.Human rights are LAW, public policy guides local and federal laws through a general cultural opinion that develops in popular media and different ‘movements’ in society. People (yes.. just people…) will lobby and push concepts on our government to enact laws that limit our human rights, this is not legal, but worded so ambiguously it is not correlated to its violation of our basic human rights until intense litigation and logical arguments are made and no one seems to argue it when its enacted.There is NO special exceptions to Equality. Human rights are the same for all Human beings with NO SPECIAL CONSIDERATION for gender, age or race.
You must treat the disease, not the symptoms.This overall message is critical, but I have still seen people waving the wrong flag. Yes it is glorious but your on the small weak team that is going to get stomped out, you have seen it… its not helping. The overall picture is human rights, parental rights. When you go into court, try making a point to keep yourself from defining yourself on the team that is not popular or favored in society. Proudly claim yourself as a parent without defining yourself as a man. This needs to be common practice in family law. All references to gender in ALL forms of law need to be ELIMINATED.
This is going to be a movement eventually… lets start one.My name is Ryan Sellars and I am a Human being… a Parent. Do not define me by my gender or race or popular opinion, but by my basic human rights as a parent.
Last night I cuddled up on the sofa with my five-year-old daughter Ruby as we enjoyed one of her favourite TV shows. It was the story of Tracy Beaker — who, I should explain to any non- parents, is a wonderful character created by the children’s author Jacqueline Wilson.
Tracy is a young girl growing up in a children’s home — she’s feisty and funny, but constantly fantastises about a better life. One with parents. Whenever she goes into one of her reveries, claiming to have ‘hay fever’ when she wants to shed a tear, Ruby gets sad. So last night, when hay fever struck Tracy, Ruby, too, became misty-eyed.
‘I’m so lucky to have a mummy and daddy,’ she said, hugging me. As I cuddled her back, I felt a terrible stab of guilt in my stomach.
For Ruby nearly didn’t have a daddy. For the first two-and-a-half years of her life, I…
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