How Parental Alienation Manifests in School Settings

 

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Pt. 1 Get Educated About Alienation:

This is Parental AlienationHow Parental Alienation 

Manifests in a School or Educational Setting | Family Court Injustice

Broward County Public School conspires with Judge Manno-Schurr to enable Parental Alienation, a severe form of child abuse. http://iloveandneedmydaughter.blogspot.com/2013/04/reckless-disregard-true-and-compelling.html
Broward County Public School conspires with Judge Manno-Schurr to enable Parental Alienation, a severe form of child abuse.

Those who perpetrate alienation not only manipulate the child but often manipulate other people, even professionals, in their war against the targeted parent. This commonly happens as “triangulation” – when one parent (usually the abuser or alienator) uses a third party, like a teacher or school principal, to play against the other parent.

“Changing a child last name (away from the father’s) is an act of venom”

“Changing a child last name (away from the father’s) is an act of venom”

THE TRUTH BY ZORAYA'S MOTHER

THE TRUTH BY ZORAYA’S MOTHER

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Parental alienation has various definitions but in a nutshell is when one parent works to damage a child’s relationship with the other parent (known as the “targeted parent”). As a result of alienation, child who previously had a close, loving, healthy (not abusive) relationship with the “targeted parent” then becomes estranged, hostile or rejects that parent. Many consider alienation a form of child abuse. The alienator may also elicit others—like educators—to similarly hate, reject or become hostile toward the other parent.

When alienation occurs in the school setting, the results are devastating: usually there is breakdown in communication between one parent and the educators (who have taken the side of the alienating parent, and may view the “targeted” parent in a negative light). The school may consciously or unconsciously reinforce the power and control tactics of the alienator, and sometimes the educators will even become personally involved in family court or custody litigation.

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There are cases where an educator has become so aligned with one parent that they will give that parent a favorable impression to the court while becoming hostile towards the “targeted parent”; finding fault, blaming and criticizing that parent, even in areas that have nothing to do with the child’s education.

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Alienated Parents Get Blame For Everything Bad?

Are Alienated Parents Blamed For Everything Bad? | Ryan Thomas Speaks I Child of Parental Alienation to Reunited Son

In this Video I answer Amy’s Question: Are alienated parents blamed for everything bad that happens in the child’s life?

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Happy Birthday Zoraya!

We Love You,  We Think About You,  We Miss You,  All the Time!

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She’s a soft cool rain on a hot summer’s day.

She makes me laugh with the funny things she has to say.

She’s the beat of my heart, and the air that I breathe.

She’s the sun and the wind, and autumn’s golden leaves.

She’s the pride that I feel when I know she’s done what’s right.

She’s that warm feeling I get, when I remember tucking her in at night.

You are a princess in my heart, and I care for you so much.I love the fondness in your eyes and your tender little touch.

I looked at you when you were born,And knew then straight away,That I would be forever hereTo watch you grow and play.

You bring to me a heart of joy, and memories so great,And a powerful sense of fatherhood that no one can debate.

I use to watch you sleep and dream of things that I can only wonder.

That innocent look upon your face just made my heart grow fonder.

I use to see you run and jump and shout and calling out my name…Papi!!

No love that I have ever known could ever feel the same.

No suffering or tragedy nor deeply seated pain could ever over shadow the bond that we retain.

And so my little princess before you go to sleep, Remember I am your daddy and I am yours to keep.

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Happy Birthday to You!

We Love and Miss You So Much Zoraya!!

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The Constitutional Right of Parents to the Care, Custody and Nurturing of their Children.

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Yesterday Fathers and Families Ohio Director was featured in their latest newsletter. Don Hubin and I have an extensive history that goes back to when he brought me into the Father’s Rights movement with an organization called Parents And Children for Equality (PACE). As a Chapter Director, one of the first assignment that I had was working on the writing of what was the very first equal custody bill ever introduced in any state legislature (HB232).

I will not go into a lot of detail but that became a real eye opener on the workings of State Government and what it takes to create a law and what is need in preparation to trying to get that law passed. I can go into the many failings of Don during that process of that bill but that experience set my resolve to get this job done for every parent across the country.

He his latest rambling for F&F he attempts to fall back on the old Constitutional Rights argument that has failed in every level of the courts and is one that I broke away from using long ago. As Senator Skindell told me when I was able to completely explain the argument, “It is too complicated and will go over a legislator’s head”.

The question that needs to be posed to Don Hubin is why when there was a bill introduced that met all these requirements that you are now calling for, why did you choose to block that legislation? Is it because you didn’t do it Don and Fathers and Families could not profit from a successful bill passing? Hate to tell you Don, that mythical pot of gold does not exist.

The best thing that we can all do is tell them to stay away. Take your fund raising efforts to the suckers that you continue to hornswoggle with your words that you fail to back up with action and go away for the betterment of every parent in the nation.

BTW- What the real truth on Fathers and Families and their actions during SB144

That is why I continue to press the single question of “Why do we remove fit parents from the lives of our children?” Like the asking for a legal definition of “Best Interest of the Child” it is the loaded question that can be explained by anyone.  ~~  

— News  –  Jul 19, 2013


Parental Rights |

Below are excerpts of case law from state appellate and federal district courts and up to the U.S. Supreme Court, all of which affirm, from one perspective or another, the absolute Constitutional right of parents to actually BE parents to their children.

The rights of parents to the care, custody and nurture of their children is of such character that it cannot be denied without violating those fundamental principles of liberty and justice which lie at the base of all our civil and political institutions, and such right is a fundamental right protected by this amendment (First) and Amendments 5, 9, and 14. ~ Doe v. Irwin, 441 F Supp 1247; U.S. D.C. of Michigan, (1985).Amendment 14 US Constitution - 2015

The several states have no greater power to restrain individual freedoms protected by the First Amendment than does the Congress of the United States. Wallace v. Jaffree, 105 S Ct 2479; 472 US 38, (1985).

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One is True – The Other is False

One is True – The Other is False

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~ Dr Craig Childress

Excerpt:

This is the standard mental health response to all forms of child abuse.  This is the standard mental health response to physical child abuse.  This is the standard mental health response to sexual child abuse.  This is the standard mental health response to psychological child abuse.  Diagnosis guides treatment.

Pathogenic parenting that is creating significant developmental pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 1), personality disorder pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 2), and delusional-psychiatric pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 3) in order to meet the emotional and psychological needs of the parent represents a DSM-5 diagnosis of V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse, Confirmed.

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“All Rise for Judge Gorycyca”

Michigan Judge Lisa Gorcyca gets standing ovation | Communities Digital News

Two hundred lawyers wrote an open letter in her support on the eve of the MJTC.

Just a day after the Michigan Judicial Tenure Commission censured Gorcyca, she was applauded in her courtroom.

According to one court-watcher who was present, “I was in Gorcyca’s courtroom this morning (her first day back). It was packed…and loud. Never saw it like that before. Attorneys everywhere…even filling the juror box and standing because seats full Then when they said “All Rise for Judge Gorycyca”  huge eruption of applause. She had a bouquet of flowers. She thanked them and then told them to get back to their hearings. They laughed. Then 90% of them left and as they left, shook David Gocyca’s hand at the door like a receiving line.”Project Fatherhood FL 13- 2015

The week before, Judge Daniel Ryan found that Judge Gorcyca violated several canons of judicial ethics.

Specifically, Judge Ryan found that Judge Gorcyca did not apply civil contempt properly,  “It is a disciplinary action which stands for the singular proposition that if a judge is going to use the inherent power of contempt, the ultimate “tool in the tool box” after years of “frustration,” the judge may wish to consult the owner’s manual to make sure that she or he are using the tool properly before employing one of the 34 penultimate tools of inherent judicial power, a contempt finding, to deprive any individual, or children in this case, of their liberty,”

This is not the first time members of the legal profession, specifically those who are likely to practice in front of Judge Gorcyca, have come to her defense after she became the subject of international derision for sentencing the three Tsimhoni kids to juvenile hall for not having lunch with their father.

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Sending Parental Alienation information to an alienated child

Should Targeted Parents Send Alienated Children Books? | Psychology Today

Frequently I will get an e-mail or call from a targeted parent asking me which of my books and writings do I think they should share with their alienated child, as a means of enlightening that child about the cause of the breach in their relationship.

My simple answer is one word: none. I know of no situation in which a currently alienated child positively received such an item. The wish is that the alienated child (regardless of the age of the “child”) would read the item and have an epiphany and say something like, “Wow. I have a whole new understanding of what has happened in my childhood. I only thought you were the bad guy. Now I realize that you really loved me and I was tricked into believing that wasn’t true.” It is completely understandable why a targeted parent would harbor such a wish. It is almost like having a magic wand. However, as far as I know, there is no magic wand for undoing the spell of alienation.

When I coach targeted parents I try to help them see what has happened from their child’s point of view. No alienated child believes that they were brainwashed. If they had that insight they wouldn’t be alienated any more. Currently alienated children (again, I am referring to the person as a child because of their role as the child of the targeted parent not because of their age) have an understanding of why they have no relationship with the targeted parent and that understanding is based on their felt experience with that parent.

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Parental Alienation Childhood Trauma

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PAS Caselaw Update – 2016

parental-alienation-as-a-victim-standupforzoraya-2015The victims of psychological maltreatment suffered from anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, post-traumatic stress disorder, and suicidal tendencies at the same rate — and in some cases, an even greater rate — than those physically or sexually abused. Joseph Spinazzola, who lead the study, points out that since psychological abuse has no physical wounds associated with it, child protective case workers have a particularly hard time recognizing it. Are you — or anyone you know — the victim of psychological abuse or neglect?  We welcome you to share your experiences in the comments section below.

My research in social media led me to conclude a large population of parents lie about being victims of parental alienation. In an experiment I offered several opportunities to thousands of parents ( claiming to be victims of parental alienation ) a chance to take full ad- vantage of free consultations and free video conferences, on the subject of parental alienation. The tracked response confirmed only 5% of the members of these social media groups accepted the free offers.why-would-a-judge-2016

The social media groups included more than twenty groups claiming to be support groups or advocates for recognition of parental alienation; in addition other groups correlated to high conflict divorce with children were pooled into the social media population including: Father Rights Organizations, Step Parenting groups, Blended Family Support Groups, Support Groups for Personality Disordered Relationship Survivors and the population included non-custodial parent groups. . This low response rate helps to validate that many of the parents joining these social media sites -claiming to be victims of an alienating parent or – claiming that their children are victims of parental alienation – have not been truthful, in addition, the high statistical result for non-reactive parents ( 95% ) supports the finding that these non-reactive parents, do not match up with the profile of a targeted parent.parental-alienation-bully-billboard-2016

A targeted parent with an alienated child would not turn down a free consultation to receive support for themselves and for their children. Nor would a true targeted parent refuse to accept an offer to receive access to free online video conferences specifically about the subject of parental alienation. Nor would targeted parents turn down offers to help them with opportunities to repair a lost / damaged relationship with their child(ren). The statistical data validates that parents are lying about being victims of parental alienation and they are lying about having children- who are victims of alienation.

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Family Justice ~ True Parental Alienation Stories

And someday she will know the truth.

Can you tell your story one more time? – 100’s of true Parental Alienation stories.

Today I find an apartment, at a price perfect for when maintenance ends next month, a block from the school of one of my daughters and in the same district as the other– I could drive her (the younger of the girls) there on the way to work.

The younger messages her mom about the apartment and the school thing, because she’s been upset about having to switch schools and losing her friends. I shouldn’t have brought up the school thing. It rose hopes of stability that had little chance of being realized.

You can guess the mother’s proposition– given to my younger, 9 y/o daughter.

If I drive both girls, every day, to both schools, at their different arrival and dismissal times, then sure.

So, it’s on me. I can quit my job and become a school bus driver, or the girls switch schools.

The “concession” to which I alluded in my earlier post here was my “giving” their mother full legal custody. Please don’t lecture me on what an unwise decision this was. The judge was not going to award joint custody when the mother refuses to talk to the father. The father, who had an order of protection in place for “harassing” the wife about WHY she kicked him out– he’s gonna win a custody battle?

No, he’s not. And he’s not going to put his kids through it.

So, they suffer. Not just this school bullshit. Everything.

The older one tells me she asked her mom why we split up. The mom answered, “you’ll understand one day.”

I hope she does understand one day.

Maybe she can tell me.

I hope it’s something better than “sometimes mommies get bored with daddies and put their own needs above those of their children.” 

Spike Gardner on American Fathers Liberation Army (AFLA) ~ Before I could see no resolve and even felt it was better to completely eliminate an abusive parent. Now I see the abuse can be defused by minimizing hostility with equality. A mandatory 50/50-6 months on/6 months off. Only 1 mandatory exchange every 6 months at custody transfer!

Having the authority to say what is and isn’t acceptable in your child’s life should be a custodial parent’s personal choice not to be infringed by court orders unless criminal activity is identified.

**NOBODY SHOULD BE COURT ORDERED TO BE EXPOSED TO AN ABUSER-NOT A MAN, WOMEN OR A CHILD!  ***A PARENT SHOULD NEVER FEEL AS THOUGH THEY CAN NOT PROTECT THEIR CHILD DURING THEIR OWN CUSTODIAL PARENTING TIME.

Children’s Rights ~ SAVE for Falsely Accused:

“If someone is falsely accused of a crime, pleads not guilty, & the charges are dismissed, he/she may be able to file suit against the person who brought the charges. E.g., if a private citizen files a false criminal charge against another person or falsely makes a complaint to a police officer that results in another’s arrest, and if no conviction results, the accused may sue the accuser for malicious prosecution.”

In recent years, many abuse shelters have removed requirements for persons to provide evidence of domestic violence in order to receive shelter services. Problem is, there are many more homeless women than victims of battering.

Soon word got out, if you need a place to sack out for a few weeks, just come up with a convincing abuse story, and you’re in the door. And not surprisingly, many shelters are now filled with homeless and drug-abusing women – in the DC area, the average waiting time to get into a shelter is 3 months.

As a result, true victims of physical violence have found it increasingly difficult to obtain the services and protections they need. To say they are disillusioned and angry is an understatement. (To see eye-opening accounts by these victims, visit this Facebook Page.  In addition, we have created a new class of victims, the falsely accused, who find their reputations, assets, and careers harmed.

SAVE believes the solution to this unacceptable state of affairs is to re-establish requirements for evidence of abuse. So we are conducting an informal survey, asking these 2 questions:

1.      What type of evidence should be considered acceptable? Eg. Police reports, medical records, cell phone photographs, reliable eyewitness accounts, etc.

2.      Are there any forms of evidence that should not be considered acceptable?

Dr. Glenn Ross Caddy on ‎Children’s RightsI am not sure who nominated me to this group but I welcome the nomination and am pleased to participate. I am an expert in high conflict divorce and parental alienation. I work nationally [U.S.] and also internationally [mainly England, Canada and Australia]. My base is in Fort Lauderdale, Florida [9545475100]. I am easily googled. If I can be of assistance to anyone please feel free to contact me. Glenn Ross Caddy Ph.D.

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Linda Gottlieb Kase LMFT LCSW on ‎Children’s Rights ~ The “expert” witness and the therapist that the alienator hires is generally a psychologist, who not have expertise in family dynamics unless specialized training above and beyond the Ph.D training is obtained. To disqualify the “expert,” the following questions could be asked at trial:

In your professional opinion, on a scale of 1 to 10, with 10 being the highest, what is the influence of parents on children prior to adolescence? (this should be a high #, and if not, the expert/therapist should be asked to justify a low # eg. who has the great influences.)

And after adolescence? (this should be a relatively high # at least)judge2byou2bare2bfired2b-2b2015-16-collage

Do you believe that parental conflict generally has an adverse effect on children and/or causes the child to react negatively in response? Please rate that effect on a scale of 1-10. (this should be a high #, as even the lay person would acknowledge the impact of parental hostility on children. If the expert doesn’t give a high #, he/she should be asked to justify the answer.)

So you would (or would not—depending on prior answers) agree with Christopher Barden, PhD., JD., who has received 2 national research awards in psychology and a law degree with honors from Harvard Law school, when he stated, “There can be no credible controversy about the power of parents to influence children.” (The International Handbook of Parental Alienation Syndrome, p. 420)?fb_img_1428973918185

Would you also agree with Barden when he stated that custody cases require “the critical obligation to carefully review the influence of parents, therapists or other adults on the attitudes, beliefs and memories of children.” (pp. 419-432)?

Could you describe what some of these effects are?

Can you give some examples as to how children get caught up in their parents’ conflicts.

You have just confirmed that you recognize the great influence of parents on children as well as the detrimental affects on children due to being exposed to the parental conflict. Yet I did not hear you express how you acquired your expertise in family dynamics. In fact, is it true that you are not licensed in your state of X as a Marriage and Family Therapist?

Can you state what training in family dynamics you had in your education for your psychology degree? (I can confirm that they had no more than family therapy 101, IF they had that at all. The LMFT degree, in virtually all states, requires 60 credits, including 2 internships in the provision of family therapy services.)

Are you aware of your X State’s criteria for obtaining this expertise and being qualified as a specialist for the licensing of a marriage and family therapist. How much of that criteria do you meet?

So could you please state how you are qualified as an expert in assessing family dynamics as well as the adverse effects on children resulting from the dysfunctional parental dyad?

What has been your experience in the treatment of families?

What is the difference between individual therapy and family therapy?

What % do you practice in family therapy and in individual therapy?

How many families have you treated?

How do you justify individual treatment of the child outside of assessing the influence of the parental conflicts on the child?

Have you published books and/or articles on family therapy?

Are the X children being reared in a family?

Could the behaviors and reactions of the children in this case be indicative of being triangled into the parental conflicts?

What causes the symptoms for which you are treating the X children? (Individual therapists will be unable to account for the causes of a child symptoms because there is no empirical evidence for the existence of intra-psychic or biochemical disorders. A family therapist, on the other hand, has much empirical evidence as a family’s therapist can see how the child negatively reacts to the parents’ arguing when observing the family in the session.)

What is your empirical evidence for the causes you have just expressed?

Could you describe any parental interactions which have affected the children in this case?

Do you know how the discipline of family therapy labels the family interactional pattern which puts children in the middle of the parental disputes?

(It is called triangulation. Child psychiatrist, Murray Bowen, labeled it the “pathological triangle. ” Indeed, Bowen and was so convinced about the family’s role in creating and maintaining the child’s symptoms, that when he hospitalized the child, he also hospitalized the entire nuclear family.)

Are you aware, Dr. X, that the psychiatrist, Murray Bowen, was so convinced that the parents’ conflict and this triangulation was at the root of the child’s symptoms so that when he hospitalized a child, he simultaneously hospitalized the entire nuclear family?

Have you heard of child psychiatrist, Salvador Minuchin? (In 2007, he was rated by a research study of therapists as being one of the 10 most influential therapists in the history of psychotherapy. He has written more than 11 books on family therapy. There would not be even a single person trained in family therapy or child psychiatry who has not heard of him.)

Do you know what Dr. Minuchin stated about the adverse effects of triangulation on children? (He asserted that it is the basis of virtually all dysfunctional family relationships adversely affecting children, and the concept of triangulation can be readily found in his book entitled, Family Therapy Techniques, 1981. Dr. M actually labeled this triangulation as a cross-generational alliance between the child and a parent who is in conflict with the other parent. This is the key interactional pattern in the PAS family.)

So as you confirmed that the X children are being reared in a family, on what basis do you claim your expertise to justify making recommendations for the X children regarding their relationship with their targeted/alienated parent?

You really don’t have any expertise in family dynamics, do you, to make any assessments and recommendations for the X children and their parental relationships?

You testified that the children in this case have reservations about, fear of, and hatred for their targeted/alienated parent. Can say with any certainty that they were not influenced by their other parent?

How does the pathological triangle or family dynamics in this case influence what the children say and do?

Do you believe that children the age of the X children are cognitively competent and emotionally mature enough to make decisions in their own best interests?

What does Piaget state about the cognitive development of a child the age of: (give age of each child). ——Until the age of adolescence, children do not have the ability to think for themselves, and abstract thinking only begins at age 13. (Piaget wrote the bible on the development of epistemology in children as follows:

0-2 sensorimotor

2-7 preoperational

7-12 concrete operational

13-adulthood formal operational = abstract thinking.

Given the immature level of these children’s cognitive abilities, how do you distinguish the alienating parent’s influence on them their own ideas and feelings?

Can you rule out with any certainty that the alienating parent is not influencing them adversely against their targeted/alienated parent?

Have you observed the interactions between the children and their targeted/alienated parent?

How can you diagnose for a relationship you have never or virtually never observed?

Would a doctor recommend heart bypass surgery without having examined the heart?

Should a child decide whether to go to school? To medical appointments?

Would you say that deciding whether to have a relationship with a parent is as at least a significant decision as attending school or medical appointments?

Then why should they decide on whether to visit a parent or to have a relationship with a parent?

What specific examples did the child cite to justify the adverse opinions about and refusal to have a relationship with the targeted/alienated parent? (Generally these (experts) do not follow-up with questions for specific information. If they do, they an answer like “She/he lies. She/he is annoying, etc.” The expert should be questioned about her/his willingness to accept such frivolous rationalizations.)

How reliable is client self reporting? (It is not at all, and we accept that as truth in the mental health profession.)

Would it not be logical to conclude that the immature emotional and cognitive development of a child would make their reporting even less reliable?

Do you know any research on the effects on children if a parent is not meaningfully involved in their lives?

When a parent is significantly minimized and excluded from a child’s life, what do you think children fill that emotional vacuum with?

(Educate the “expert” about such research by using the statistics from Fatherneed and the SPARC statistics. A summary is in the PAS help file which I previously sent to anyone who had requested it.)

Would you not then conclude that having a parent eradicated from a child’s life leads to emotional distress and behavioral difficulties for the child?

And if such eradication was facilitated, either consciously or unconsciously, by the other parent, would you not consider that to be emotional child abuse?

Are you aware of any tactics the alienating parent/residential parent employed to interfere with the visits and/or relationship with the child and the targeted parent? (This is a case specific question and should be supported by documentation from the particular case by citing examples of the alienating behaviors.)

You made reference to the alienator’s many allegations against the other parent. Do you have no independent verification of those allegations? You really don’t, do you?

Why would you accept such allegations carte blanche without independent verification?

In your professional opinion, what would be the justification or motivations of the residential parent for not encouraging the relationship between the child and the other parent?

Do you believe that children are generally healthier if 2 parents remained meaningfully in their lives?Project Fatherhood FL 13- 2015You have recommended that contact between the child and the nonresidential parent the only gradually reinstated?

What is the research that supports this gradual reunification? (There is none! The propensity for the judicial system to only gradually reinstate visits is not supported by any research whatsoever.)
How do you explain that children of military families and who never met their deployed parent, excitedly run to, hug, smile at their deployed parent when that parent returns home from deployment?
Is it not true that it is because the caretaking parent talks up the deployed parent and enthusiastically encourages the child to greet the deployed parent explains it?
Is it not also true that the psychological and instinctual need and desire to have a relationship with a parent is so overwhelmingly strong that children will easily accept meaningful involvement from a parent from whom they have been estranged?  I have no more questions of this witness.

The movement to help fathers with their rights to parenting their children is called the Father’s Rights Movement.