Manifests in a School or Educational Setting | Family Court Injustice
Those who perpetrate alienation not only manipulate the child but often manipulate other people, even professionals, in their war against the targeted parent. This commonly happens as “triangulation” – when one parent (usually the abuser or alienator) uses a third party, like a teacher or school principal, to play against the other parent.
“Changing a child last name (away from the father’s) is an act of venom”
THE TRUTH BY ZORAYA’S MOTHER
Parental alienation has various definitions but in a nutshell is when one parent works to damage a child’s relationship with the other parent (known as the “targeted parent”). As a result of alienation, child who previously had a close, loving, healthy (not abusive) relationship with the “targeted parent” then becomes estranged, hostile or rejects that parent. Many consider alienation a form of child abuse. The alienator may also elicit others—like educators—to similarly hate, reject or become hostile toward the other parent.
When alienation occurs in the school setting, the results are devastating: usually there is breakdown in communication between one parent and the educators (who have taken the side of the alienating parent, and may view the “targeted” parent in a negative light). The school may consciously or unconsciously reinforce the power and control tactics of the alienator, and sometimes the educators will even become personally involved in family court or custody litigation.
There are cases where an educator has become so aligned with one parent that they will give that parent a favorable impression to the court while becoming hostile towards the “targeted parent”; finding fault, blaming and criticizing that parent, even in areas that have nothing to do with the child’s education.
In this Video I answer Amy’s Question: Are alienated parents blamed for everything bad that happens in the child’s life?
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Below are excerpts of case law from state appellate and federal district courts and up to the U.S. Supreme Court, all of which affirm, from one perspective or another, the absolute Constitutional right of parents to actually BE parents to their children.
The rights of parents to the care, custody and nurture of their children is of such character that it cannot be denied without violating those fundamental principles of liberty and justice which lie at the base of all our civil and political institutions, and such right is a fundamental right protected by this amendment (First) and Amendments 5, 9, and 14. ~ Doe v. Irwin, 441 F Supp 1247; U.S. D.C. of Michigan, (1985).
The several states have no greater power to restrain individual freedoms protected by the First Amendment than does the Congress of the United States. Wallace v. Jaffree, 105 S Ct 2479; 472 US 38, (1985).
This is the standard mental health response to all forms of child abuse. This is the standard mental health response to physical child abuse. This is the standard mental health response to sexual child abuse. This is the standard mental health response to psychological child abuse. Diagnosis guides treatment.
Pathogenic parenting that is creating significant developmental pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 1), personality disorder pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 2), and delusional-psychiatric pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 3) in order to meet the emotional and psychological needs of the parent represents a DSM-5 diagnosis of V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse, Confirmed.
Two hundred lawyers wrote an open letter in her support on the eve of the MJTC.
Just a day after the Michigan Judicial Tenure Commission censured Gorcyca, she was applauded in her courtroom.
According to one court-watcher who was present, “I was in Gorcyca’s courtroom this morning (her first day back). It was packed…and loud. Never saw it like that before. Attorneys everywhere…even filling the juror box and standing because seats full Then when they said “All Rise for Judge Gorycyca” huge eruption of applause. She had a bouquet of flowers. She thanked them and then told them to get back to their hearings. They laughed. Then 90% of them left and as they left, shook David Gocyca’s hand at the door like a receiving line.”
The week before, Judge Daniel Ryan found that Judge Gorcyca violated several canons of judicial ethics.
Specifically, Judge Ryan found that Judge Gorcyca did not apply civil contempt properly, “It is a disciplinary action which stands for the singular proposition that if a judge is going to use the inherent power of contempt, the ultimate “tool in the tool box” after years of “frustration,” the judge may wish to consult the owner’s manual to make sure that she or he are using the tool properly before employing one of the 34 penultimate tools of inherent judicial power, a contempt finding, to deprive any individual, or children in this case, of their liberty,”
This is not the first time members of the legal profession, specifically those who are likely to practice in front of Judge Gorcyca, have come to her defense after she became the subject of international derision for sentencing the three Tsimhoni kids to juvenile hall for not having lunch with their father.
Dad, I love you for an infinite number of reasons.
I feel so blessed to have you as my father and I’m thankful for the wonderful life you have given me. In honor of Father’s Day, I would like to celebrate you: a magnificent man, a loyal, loving husband, a devoted father, and a true friend.
Please know that my list of gratitude is endless and continues to grow with each passing day.
Thank you for falling madly in love with Charlene Campo and marrying her 41 years ago. Thank you for showing me that news headlines are not the norm; men can actually love women faithfully and unconditionally – for a lifetime.
Thank you for knowing you wanted to be a father.
Thank you for providing me with a never-ending sense of physical safety and emotional security whenever I’m with you, even if we are with my husband.
Thank you for constantly showering me with heartfelt hugs and kisses. And to this day, thanks for squeezing my cheeks so hard I sometimes yelp, “Ouch, Dad!”
Thank you for crying in front of me when I was 9 years old when you found out your father had died.
Thank you for encouraging me to play on the boy’s baseball team because there was not a girl’s baseball team for my age group.
Thank you for leaving work early to watch me play sports, and thank you for always cheering so loud that I knew it was undeniably your voice emanating from the bleachers.
Thank you for teaching me the importance of health and exercise.
Thank you for being an overprotective father from the time I was an infant until present day. For the record, there was no way I was going to fall into the Grand Canyon; we were on an observation deck! However, the grip you had on the back of my T-shirt still impresses me to this day.
Thank you for teaching me the power of humor and how to effectively tell a joke.
Thank you for teaching me the significance of “knowing my audience”, and when appropriate, the power of dropping a well enunciated f-bomb in proper company.
Thank you for changing the massive surgical bandage after my surgery because Mom could not stomach the site of the stitches, the dried blood, the swelling, and the black, purple and yellow discoloration.
Thank you for always telling me I am beautiful.
Thank you for working two jobs for 18 years to provide our family with a comfortable lifestyle. Thank you for always kissing me on the cheek to say goodnight when you came home from your bartending shifts at 2 A.M.
Thank you for teaching me the importance of humility, and the remarkable power of emotional and financial generosity.
Thank you for stressing the importance of education. When you went back to college for your second master’s degree, you showed me that it is never too late to change careers.
Thank you for telling me to “shake it off” when you knew I was not in dire physical pain.
Thank you for embarrassing me and Liz when you picked us up for spring break during our freshman year of college. The image I have of you incessantly yelling, “Girls, daddy’s here!” for the entire length of Evergreen Drive—with half of your body leaning out the station wagon window—is permanently seared into my memory.
Thank you for teaching me about politics and political parties. Thank you for resisting the urge to convince me to vote for your candidate.
Thank you for never lying to me.
Thank you for loving your brother and teaching me the importance of loving those who are not like you. Thank you for showing me that a person’s sexual orientation is part of their soul and should never affect the love you have for them.
Thank you for loving and accepting Uncle Joe’s husband.
Thank you for loving and accepting my husband.
Thank you for loving and accepting me and always making me feel like I am good enough.
Thank you for showing me what is means to be a good man, a great teacher, an extraordinary husband, and an outstanding father for the past 37 years of my life.
A Mother’s Day message from Dr. Mark Roseman of The Toby Center.
For an increasing number of moms, Mother’s Day without their children are expected, and characteristic. It’s characteristic of mothers who are court ordered to have visitation that they not see their children on this day.
For dads, too, there are many whose children cannot spend time with their them.
Courts empower alienation in divorce child custody battles when they deprive a parent of the ability to exercise their equal parental rights and time with their child. This leads to parental alienation syndrome.
Parental alienation occurs when a parent intentionally does not honor the other parent’s visitation rights. Oftentimes the child(ren) are taught to become unjustly obsessed with negative qualities of the other parent. Both the parent and the child share antagonistic views of the other parent. The child sometimes will tell the parent that he/she does not want to visit with the parent. This is usually done by the child at the insistence of the other parent.
Oftentimes visitation (time sharing) becomes chronically interfered with. The one sabotages the relationship between the other parent and the child. The parent must take action through the court. Contacting a family law attorney as soon as possible to discuss the problems is imperative. The parent should keep a diary of all the denied visitations (time sharing) as well as the denied telephone calls, holiday visits that were denied, denial of the parents ability to partake in the medical, educational and welfare of the child(ren).
Our Family Law System preys on the Parent-Child relationship to increase the business of the courts. We want to educate our legislators to correct this wrong.
Good, …””FIT”…, caring, and loving parents who are cut off from their kids are unable, and most times, do not want to communicate with the “child-contact interfering (alienating) parent” because anything they say will only be twisted and lied about.
The victims of psychological maltreatment suffered from anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, post-traumatic stress disorder, and suicidal tendencies at the same rate — and in some cases, an even greater rate — than those physically or sexually abused. Joseph Spinazzola, who lead the study, points out that since psychological abuse has no physical wounds associated with it, child protective case workers have a particularly hard time recognizing it. Are you — or anyone you know — the victim of psychological abuse or neglect? We welcome you to share your experiences in the comments section below.
My research in social media led me to conclude a large population of parents lie about being victims of parental alienation. In an experiment I offered several opportunities to thousands of parents ( claiming to be victims of parental alienation ) a chance to take full ad- vantage of free consultations and free video conferences, on the subject of parental alienation. The tracked response confirmed only 5% of the members of these social media groups accepted the free offers.
The social media groups included more than twenty groups claiming to be support groups or advocates for recognition of parental alienation; in addition other groups correlated to high conflict divorce with children were pooled into the social media population including: Father Rights Organizations, Step Parenting groups, Blended Family Support Groups, Support Groups for Personality Disordered Relationship Survivors and the population included non-custodial parent groups. . This low response rate helps to validate that many of the parents joining these social media sites -claiming to be victims of an alienating parent or – claiming that their children are victims of parental alienation – have not been truthful, in addition, the high statistical result for non-reactive parents ( 95% ) supports the finding that these non-reactive parents, do not match up with the profile of a targeted parent.
A targeted parent with an alienated child would not turn down a free consultation to receive support for themselves and for their children. Nor would a true targeted parent refuse to accept an offer to receive access to free online video conferences specifically about the subject of parental alienation. Nor would targeted parents turn down offers to help them with opportunities to repair a lost / damaged relationship with their child(ren). The statistical data validates that parents are lying about being victims of parental alienation and they are lying about having children- who are victims of alienation.
Award-Winning and Prize-Winning Author of Access Denied, The Wretched, The Roots of Evil, The Ghost of Clothes, Omonolidee, First Words and Unzipped: The Mind of a Madman, The Deeper Roots of Evil, along with numerous short stories, poems and articles.