One is True – The Other is False

One is True – The Other is False

Attachment-Based
Parental Alienation

~ Dr Craig Childress

Excerpt:

This is the standard mental health response to all forms of child abuse.  This is the standard mental health response to physical child abuse.  This is the standard mental health response to sexual child abuse.  This is the standard mental health response to psychological child abuse.  Diagnosis guides treatment.

Pathogenic parenting that is creating significant developmental pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 1), personality disorder pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 2), and delusional-psychiatric pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 3) in order to meet the emotional and psychological needs of the parent represents a DSM-5 diagnosis of V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse, Confirmed.

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A rose by any other name … | the alienation experience

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“Changing a child last name (away from the father’s) is an act of venom”

A rose by any other name … | the alienation experience… would smell as sweet?!

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From van Lawick & Visser’s paper on their ‘No kids in the middle’ project.

Alienation is more prickly than sweet! …

There are lots of reasons why we need a name for the pattern commonly called Parental Alienation.

Some people do great work with Alienated children and families but without using that label. So you won’t find their good work by Googling ‘Alienation’.

We want to feature two important papers on Alienation by another name. They go under our radar because they don’t use our word for it.

CONTACT DENIAL IS CHILD ABUSE - STAND UP FOR ZORAYA - 2016First though, there is already a very well known different name for Alienation … under which some very well known work with Alienated families has been described. Richard Warshak gives us his striking informal alternative name: Divorce Poison. It’s certainly been good at getting attention in the market place.

Why don’t we use that term more? Well, ‘divorce’ doesn’t include other family separation. Maybe Warshak’s is a more neutral description of general misery for the whole family?

But divorce poison – like Parental Alienation too – may picture one person doing the poisoning of someone else. So both terms carry the victim / blame picture. Poisoning sounds very medical, but otherwise ‘divorce poison’ doesn’t sound scientific enough to be taken seriously, does it? No label can convey both the one-sided-ness, as well as the subtler complexity of the pattern.

 

Incidentally, this victim / blame thing is why many professionals don’t like any of these terms. Maybe we should categorise PA / Divorce Poison along with other Child Abuses which are very widely accepted … despite the term Child Abuse meaning that there is a victim and perpetrating to sort out. It is widely recognised that PA is emotional abuse of the children … if you need any proof, just look up at that 7-year old’s drawing. The implied perpetrator in PA though would need to not be just one culpable individual, not even both parents. The perpetrator in PA is a more collective adult system – a collective culpability that includes legal and other professional and social agencies too. Read the van Lawick & Visser paper for how the wider social system can actually be involved in making things better.

Anyway, here’s the less well-known papers you might miss without our familiar tag on them.

David Pitcher: ‘Do you see what I see?’

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Fighting to preserve Parent–Child relationships to improve the lives of children and strengthen society by protecting the child’s right to the love and care of both parents after separation/divorce.

“Children’s Rights” is not just about Fathers, it’s also about Children, Mothers, Families, Public Advocacy, Civil Rights and Liberties. This Children’s Rights Facebook Group, Page and Cause have been created for positive outreach, networking, distribution and discussion of information related to our cause.

CHILDREN’S RIGHTS
• A continuing relationship with both parents.

• Be treated not as a piece of property, but as a human being recognized to have unique feelings, ideas, and desires consistent with that of an individual.

• Continuing care and proper guidance from each parent.

• Not to be unduly influenced by either parent to view the other parent differently.

• Express love, friendship, and respect for both parents: freedom from having to hide those stated emotions or made to be ashamed of such.

• An explanation that the impending action of divorce was in no way caused by the child’s actions.

• Not to be the subject and/or source of any and all arguments.

• Continuing, honest feedback with respect to the divorce process and its impact on the changing relationships of the family.

• Maintain regular contact with both parents and a clear explanation for any change in plans and/or cancellations.

• Enjoy a pleasurable relationship with both parents, never to be employed as a manipulative bargaining tool.

• The obligation of being a parent does not end after a divorce.

It is extremely important to understand that the bond of marriage is completely different from that of parents. This is the most common downfall in today’s society, as a dissolution of marriage takes place so does that of parenting.

 

A WORD ABOUT SELF REPRESENTATION ~ The Sixth Amendment to the U.S. Constitution has been interpreted to provide EVERY AMERICAN with the CONSTITUTIONAL right to self-representation, if they so choose. That privilege, like all other constitutional rights, should be enjoyed without fear of harassment, prejudice, or abuse.

Furthermore, no law, regulation, or policy should exist to abridge or surreptitiously extinguish that right. Self-Represented Litigants have no less of a right to FAIR and MEANINGFUL due process under the federal and state constitutions as those individuals who choose to utilize an attorney for their legal affairs and issues. In fact, NOWHERE in any state or federal constitution does it specify that the hiring of a lawyer is a prerequisite to exercising one’s due process rights.

Democratic principles dictate that we have the right to freely choose between self-representation and hiring a lawyer to handle our legal matters without suffering humiliation, prejudice, or penalization. After all, it is the parties to the litigation that ultimately have to deal with the consequences of the case’s outcome, and not the judge or the lawyers involved in the matter.

Contrary to the view of certain judges and lawyers, those who opt to litigate their own legal matters without an attorney are NOT second-class citizens deserving of contempt and injustice. Instead, they are BRAVE CITIZENS with an inalienable right to have their legal causes adjudicated objectively and justly — with or without a lawyer.

Self-representation can be a difficult, time-consuming, and often frightening experience, especially for those burdened by demanding work schedules, family responsibilities, and other obligations of day-to-day living.

Accordingly, those who engage in the difficult task of self-litigation should be REVERED for their COURAGE and DEDICATION, not scorned or abused.

We also need to amass momentous opposition against those persons, agencies, and institutions who, in the interest of protecting huge profits, careers, and prestige, subject self-litigants to a hostile and often abusive litigation atmosphere calculated to suppress self-representation and force people to become completely and financially dependent on lawyers to gain “paid” access to a taxpayer-funded legal system.

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Dr. Jennifer Kane, sociologist at the University of North Carolina, discusses her recent study regarding the non-monetary support provided by low-income non-custodial fathers and how the research further debunks the deadbeat dad myth.

Title IVe Fraud Investigation Demand Letter Delivery to COMMITTEE ON OVERSIGHT AND GOVERNMENT REFORM.

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Child support needs to catch up to reflect new roles for fathers, say experts

Why should a custodial parent be allowed to deny access to the other parent?

Child Visitation Hits the Internet

Fatherlessness is the root cause of at least 20 other social problems.

Children Need Both Parents

Family Court Stress Disorder (PTSD)…

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Stop Child Abuse for Profit Cause

A Year Without My Daughter Zoraya. Here’s to you Judge Valerie Manno-Schurr.

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PLAN™ Takes a Stand Against Parental Alienation | Parent League and Advocacy Network, U.A.

 

 

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Parental Alienation Dynamics ·  Let no good deed go unpunished. With good intentions Judge Gorcyca acted in the best interest of children. Now that a judge has finally listened, we must stand and rally.

Pathogenic parenting is a child protection issue NOT a  #‎childcustody ‬issue. parental alienation is a child protection issueWhen addressing ‪#‎PathogenicParenting‬, mistakes can and will be made attempting to do the right thing. Mistakes can be fixed. When it comes to a parent emotionally and psychologically abusing children through ‪#‎ParentalAlienation‬and hostile aggressive parenting, “there is no right way to do the wrong thing.”

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CL: If you are a parent that has to deal with lies that have been untested, interference by the custodial parent and a full campaign of hatred from your kids and the ex, you need to speak up on behalf of this judge.

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Why won’t the Judge let me see my Daddy

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Can a Custodial Parent Ever Deny Visitation?

Visitation rights are taken seriously by courts, as it is generally felt that it is in the best interest of the child to spend time with both parents. Because of the importance that courts place on the child’s best interest when determining custody arrangements, child visitation rights can rarely, if ever be legally denied by the custodial parent.Project Fatherhood FL 6- 2015

The denial of child visitation rights are most commonly thought of as situations in which a custodial parent blatantly refuses to allow the non-custodial parent to see the child. A typical example of this scenario would be when the custodial parent, who has full custody of the son, refuses to let the son get into his other parent’s car when arrangements were made to come to pick him up for his visitation period. However, visitation rights can also be illegally denied in more subtle ways.2015-02-05 22.40.38

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For example, it is also illegal for a custodial parent to refuse visitation rights on the basis that they don’t like the non-custodial parent’s significant other; the child is sick; the child is visiting relatives; the child is out of town or at another scheduled activity; or for almost any other basis. Further, in cases where there is an emergency just before a scheduled visitation, such as when the child must be taken to the hospital, the noncustodial parent should be notified so that they may visit the child there.

Can visitation be denied to a non-custodial parents?

A denial of visitation rights by the custodial parent to a non-custodial parent, absent a change in an existing court order for visitation rights, is illegal. This is true both in situations in which the parents have agreed on a parenting plan outside of court, and in situations in which scheduled visitation has been ordered by the court. The legal phrase for this scenario is called frustration of child visitation rights, and in many states this can be cause to change the court-ordered child custody arrangement and hold the custodial parent in contempt of court.

What if the Non-Custodial Parent is Behind on Support Payments?

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Estrangement, Alienation, Denial of Contact, Isolation…All Child Abuse

“There are subtle ways and overt ways of alienating a child from a parent, but either way it’s evil

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Implications of Parental Alienation Research for Family-Based Intervention

Recent Advances in Understanding Parental Alienation

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What Exactly Is “The Best Interest of the Child”?

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This Father’s Day, and every day, all across America, there are children who are being denied access to their fathers, and most of these fathers were in their children’s lives prior.

People must awaken to the truth and the horrors of family law and see how it’s the other parent and the family courts that have bankrupted and broken them down.

Changes must be made to these systems so the court-induced parental alienation immediately ceases from them doing more harm to our children.

How is it in the best interests of our children that their fathers’ driver licenses are suspended, and they are eventually thrown in jail for inability to pay?

Here are fathers who are already broke, bankrupted, and brokenhearted and now without any ability to pay, they order him to pay or go to jail.

Where is someone supposed to come up with that kind of money when they’ve lost everything? Tell me, people. How is this in the best interests of our kids? (Yes, I am not disputing that there are some parents who don’t deserve to be parents — moms and dads.)

But most often, these are loving, “fit” fathers who have been engineered by a system designed to break them down in every way, until all they can do is run.

They are hopeless and the cycle then goes on! What happens to them when they run? They become despondent and commit suicide, like Chris Mackney, or get shot at, like Walter Scott!

Does it make sense to suspend a parent’s drivers license so now they can’t work, can’t get money to pay?

Does it make sense to throw a parent in jail because of an inability to pay, so that while he’s locked up his arrears get worse?

It’s up to us to break the cycle!

Tina Granstrom

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PLEASE HELP ZORAYA Children need both parents to be involved in their lives even when parents don't live together anymore!
PLEASE HELP ZORAYA
Children need both parents to be involved in their lives even when parents don’t live together anymore!
Broward County Public School conspires with Judge Manno-Schurr to enable Parental Alienation, a severe form of child abuse.
Broward County Public School conspires with Judge Manno-Schurr to enable Parental Alienation, a severe form of child abuse.

Find Court Qualified “Supervised Visitation Monitor” – Once a week (for one hour) in Miami-Dade or Broward County. As Ordered by Judge Manno-Schurr on February 2nd, 2015. WILL PAY – Contact Stuart H. Abramson, Attorney at Law at (305) 270-7796

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VOTEFamily.us ~ Government Vs. Parental Rights

votefamily - Parental Rights Class Action - 2015Are You Ready to Engage for Parental Rights?

It is almost here.state-of-florida-parental-rights

We are taking the final steps toward introducing the Parental Rights Amendment (PRA) in this session of Congress. And this session will be like no other. In this session, we are pushing to fully pass the PRA in both the House and the Senate!parental-rights-actNow, I must warn you. There is a chance our Summer Power Sweep is about to be delayed. But if it is, it will be because an opportunity has come along that is so huge that we can’t ignore it – the kind of opportunity that will make our delay a wise investment of time. And if it’s not delayed, well that’s good, too. Either way…

this is it!
This is the push for which we have laid a solid foundation over the last 7 years. 

So the question is, are you ready to engage?

Soon, we will be asking you to engage your congressman and your senators to get them on board. But until then, we still need to engage the community around us.

My 5’ for Parental Rights

As we wrap up our Mega-Month of May, I have to tell you the results were not what we hoped. We added far fewer to our list than our 10,000-person goal.

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Presumption of Shared Parenting…too late or about time?

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Removing the winner-gets-the-kids concept would also remove the incentive for parents to focus on each other’s faults, and to “dig up dirt” on each other. It may not be reasonable to expect divorcees to co-parent blissfully, without conflict, but getting off to a less acrimonious start, one that encourages cooperation rather than competition, would certainly seem to have a greater chance of serving the interests of children than the existing system has.
Removing the winner-gets-the-kids concept would also remove the incentive for parents to focus on each other’s faults, and to “dig up dirt” on each other. It may not be reasonable to expect divorcees to co-parent blissfully, without conflict, but getting off to a less acrimonious start, one that encourages cooperation rather than competition, would certainly seem to have a greater chance of serving the interests of children than the existing system has.

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But we are still excited about the new tool we introduced a few weeks ago, ‘My 5’ for Parental Rights. So I’d like to challenge you now to fill out your 5 this month. And if you already did so in May, let me challenge you to get 5 more.

It’s really very simple, and you can find all the details here.

Also, if you enlisted your 5 last month, why not follow up with them and see if any of your new recruits might be able to enlist 5 of their own this month?Family Civil Rights Movement - 2015

National Parental Rights Week July 20-26

Toward the same end, we have designated July 20-26 as “National Parental Rights Week.” We want to celebrate parental rights that week in three different ways.

First, if our Summer Power Sweep is on its original schedule, we will have a call blitz to urge your members of Congress (House and Senate) to sign on as PRA cosponsors.

Second, we will prepare fliers that you can share in your house of worship forParents’ Day on July 26. These fliers will alert those in your congregation to the threatened state of parental rights in America today.

Finally – and most importantly right now – we would challenge every one of you right now to set aside some time that week to fill up one petition page for parental rights.

That’s 16 names. And it’s 7 weeks away. That’s plenty of time to make a plan of action for you and your family to find and secure those 16 signatures.

Will you approach people at the baseball game? At church? Hold an old-fashioned, door-to-door petition drive in your neighborhood, or even across town? Or maybe talk to people in the supermarket parking lot? However you do it, we’re looking for just 16 names.

If that sounds too easy for you, then just print out extra petition sheets – as many as you need.

And if it sounds too ambitious, then plan to secure a “My 5” during that week. Just get the family together and do the very best you can. Every signature will help add voices to our own as we call on Congress to adopt the Amendment for parental rights.

So start your “My 5,” make plans for National Parental Rights Week, and hang on. It’s going to be one exciting summer!

Sincerely,

Michael Ramey
Director of Communications & Researchwithout dadFamily Court is a MAFIA - Child Trafficking - 2016

Child abuser in Black Robe - DivorceCorp - 2016A Living Bereavement…..

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Judge Scalia quote on Judicial System Perception - 2016Family Courts should not be allowed to treat you and your child like second-class citizens.
parental-rightsParents in intact families who are presumed to act in their children’s best interests every day. See Troxel v. Granville, 530 U.S. 57, 65, 120 S.Ct. 2054, 147 L.Ed.2d 49 (2000) (observing that “the interest of parents in the care, custody, and control of their children[ is perhaps the oldest of the fundamental liberty interests recognized by this Court”). ~In re Lee, 411 SW 3d 445 – Tex: Supreme Court 2013parental2balienation2baka2bchild2babuse2bis2ba2bcrime2b-2b2016Do not re-elect bad family court judges - 2016– Judges have a duty to report child abuse / neglect.

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10 Reasons Why Kids Without Dads Are at a Big Disadvantage

The Journal of Father-Daughter Communications – Guiding a Girl’s First Steps Toward Womanhood About Them – The Journal of Father-Daughter Communications reports on the great work being done in the global community, with regard to Fatherhood and the Father-Daughter relationship dynamics. Utilizing…
The Journal of Father-Daughter Communications – Guiding a Girl’s First Steps Toward Womanhood About Them – The Journal of Father-Daughter Communications reports on the great work being done in the global community, with regard to Fatherhood and the Father-Daughter relationship dynamics.

All Pro Dad 10 Reasons Why Kids Without Dads Are at a Big Disadvantage

1. Balance: Mothers are amazing. Fathers are amazing too. But we were created to learn and grow as balanced people. Dad is a unique piece of that puzzle.

Almost always, the creative dedicated minority has made the world better.
Almost always, the creative dedicated minority has made the world better.

2. Parenting at best is a tag-team sport: Reality check – Father does not know best – and neither does Mother. But between them, employing their complimentary gifts, more often than not, they’ll get it right.shared parenting

3. Mom’s missing something too: We’re not saying a woman is incomplete without a man. What we are saying is that kids miss out twice when there’s no father in the home. Kids whose mom is loved eloquently by their dad have the advantage of a mother who’s loved by a good man. Every child should live in a home like that.Daughters and Dads

4. Modeling for boys: Boys need to see what it means to live as a man. Men are different in a variety of ways. Boys who see man-stuff, in action, around the home on a day-to-day basis, are at an advantage to be better equipped.Fathers

5. Modeling for girls: Most girls are going to get married one day. If they haven’t seen a real live dad, being a good man, day-in day-out, then they have missed a great opportunity to understand what to value and what to look for.Fatherless

6. The family is a model love-relationship: Love is the great force in relationships. The family is a place where the dynamics of love between a man and a woman work themselves out in the real world. Commitment, faithfulness, forgiveness, discipline, belief – all these and more play out in front of a child’s eyes. Without a dad, this very important part of the function of a family simply is not there, to instruct children. Not having a father present in the home is a huge loss in that regard.fight6

7. The best man: Not every young man is going to ask Dad to be best man at his wedding, but – beyond the ceremonial moment – Dad should be there to fulfill the role from the day his kids start dating to the day they start a family of their own.

The time is always right to do what is right.
The time is always right to do what is right.


CONTACT DENIAL IS CHILD ABUSE - STAND UP FOR ZORAYA - 20168. Loss of focused time: Understand this, a single-parent family is not 50% of a parenting unit. In fact, it’s no fraction of a family – because a single parent family is a bona fide family, period. But, in the metrics of time, a missing dad is irreplaceable in terms of what a dad does while the other parent is doing what they do. No matter how talented mom is, she can’t be duplicated and she is finite in time and space.

Across the country women, children, AND MEN are becoming the victims of judges and the court system. It is time that we take a stand, and demand a change in the system for the safety of our children.
Across the country women, children, AND MEN are becoming the victims of judges and the court system. It is time that we take a stand, and demand a change in the system for the safety of our children.


You are Disgusting - 20169. The cost in innocence: Try this question… When there’s no Dad around for Mom to lean on (and vice-versa), then who is left to play the other grown-up when one’s needed? Just in case you wonder, a grown-up IS often needed. It doesn’t matter how old the kids are, they’re going to step up and fill those shoes prematurely and there’s a cost to go along with that.

DADS ~ I promise that I will not in any way put my children in the middle of any dispute I may have with their mother, and that I will put my children’s best interest above everything else. I will not make disparaging comments to them about their mother, use my children as pawns or leverage, or… Take the Pledge
DADS ~ I promise that I will not in any way put my children in the middle of any dispute I may have with their mother, and that I will put my children’s best interest above everything else. I will not make disparaging comments to them about their mother, use my children as pawns or leverage, or… Take the Pledge


Children's Rights - Causes.com10. The cost in security: Ideally, one job Dad does best is carrying the mantle of security for a family. It doesn’t mean he’s always strong physically, and it doesn’t mean that mom is weak. The “Dad” kind of security is a simple fact of biology. But it’s real, and every child without a father loses something intangible that takes its toll in confidence.

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