Family Court Judges do not protect or relieve children’s suffering from the emotional impact of high-conflict divorce

Kids and Courts myths and what makes them so dangerous for children.

Myth I: “Judges Protect Children During Divorce.

Do you believe in Dads - 2016That sounds reasonable enough, right? The problem is that judges are not aware of the suffering a child may be experiencing while his/her parents are slugging it out in family court. And even if judges were aware, there isn’t much they can do about it.

Part of the problem is timing. Even in custody and access cases in which judges become involved with children’s issues, that involvement usually doesn’t begin until trial has begun or is imminent.

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And that’s too late to protect against the kind of psychological damage that custody battles and other high-conflict divorces can inflict upon children.

 

 

Parents on the brink of child custody and access battles sometimes find comfort in popular myths that minimize the risks involved to their children. Parents who rely upon those myths do so at the risk of their children’s emotional health.

Carlos Morales CPS Whistleblower - 2015The risk of such damage is substantial. Extensive research has established that the kind of prolonged parental conflict present in these battles is toxic to children who experience it. And as if that weren’t bad enough, battles over children during a divorce (“fully contested divorces”) also deprives children of the very things they need most.

What are those things? A “Top 4 List” of the needs of children of divorce would read something like this:dd0bb-fathers2band2bfamily2bcourts2b-2b2015

  • An end to their parents’ fighting
  • An end to uncertainty about where and with whom they will be living
  • A return to some degree of normalcy in their lives
  • Security in knowing that their parents will continue to love and care for them

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Family Court Judges Abuse and are Punishing Men, their Children, and their Families.

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Consider the great message it sends to your child if they can see you and your ex put your differences aside to make sure they are brought up in the best environment possible. 

The child will receive a very personal lesson on the importance of compromise and cooperation.

More importantly, they’ll witness how much both parents care about…

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Unjustly Denies Un-Wed Bio-Dad Access to Daughter

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They must be blind. We must help them to see. ~Mark “But again, why that one age group? It’s not clear. But that is a particularly tough time in life to suffer a serious financial setback or a debilitating health problem, noted John Phillips, who oversees some of the National Institute on Aging’s funding of research into what affects aging and health. The institute funded the study. “You’re supposed to be heading into your prime earning years, and far from being able to collect retirement benefits,” he said. A job loss or other long-lasting hardship can be very hard to cope with, he added.” Source: FoxNews.com/Health   Fox News  more »Speak Out - 2016

The Long Term Effects of Parental Alienation

I’m sure this is a subject which was expected by anyone who knows what Larry has been through over the past 35 years.

“The more a parent sees himself or herself as a victim, the greater the possibility that he or she will go after the child’s relationship with ex. And once they do, there is often no limit to their efforts. They will falsely accuse and malign everything associated with their ex, and will manipulate the child like a puppet. In short, they have little to no boundaries. They will spill anything damning– both truths and lies– into the child’s soul. So can you blame the child, who loves this parent unconditionally, for believing the messages being heard?”

Any expert will agree that the first thing parents need to do is put their feelings aside and think about what is best for the children. You never, ever, ever use…

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