Parents Affected by Parental Alienation ~ Stages of Grief

sad childUnderstanding Stages of Grief applied to Parents Affected by Parental Child Abduction / Alienation / Retention | Parental Kidnapping and Abduction Recovery.

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“The death of a child is indisputably one of the most incredibly horrible tragedies one can imagine. Whether by sudden accidental circumstance, or by a more lengthy cause as in illness, the loss of a child is undeniably painful to experience. Painful to the parents, parents to the family, and painful to anyone related to the child.

Never knowing the laughter of that child again or the tears, the joys and the accomplishments is a pain no parent should ever have to endure, and yet it happens. No one might be to blame. It can just happen”. (Tim Line)

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Alienation by Fire

We’ve all heard of the term “Baptism by Fire” but, I wonder how many have ever considered its meaning. In the Christian biblical sense, it essentially means that it is a baptism by the spirit and the trial of one’s faith. This means that a believer’s faith is tested or tried through some sort of difficulty or a series of mental and physical trials.

However, this meaning has largely been replaced and the meaning most often used according to the definition used by the Oxford dictionary is, ‘a difficult introduction to a new job or activity’. One example of this is of a soldier’s first experience of battle. ‘Baptism’ because battle is new to him and ‘fire’ from the firing of guns that is, he is ‘under fire’.

When we look at both explanations, we can actually see similarities that can be equated to the tests of which we face through the struggles in the alienation of our children. This is when we are tested in our faith that we will be reunited with our children. The other aspect of this, is that alienation is new to us and how we respond to the many obstacles is critical.i-survived-parental-alianation-2016

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Letter To Mothers With Daughters

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Dear Mothers of Daughter’s,

Before reading my article today, I want you to go back  in memory to your childhood, and ask yourself, what kind of man was your father?

We will come back to this a little later.

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How Parental Alienation Manifests in School Settings

 

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Pt. 1 Get Educated About Alienation:

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Manifests in a School or Educational Setting | Family Court Injustice

Broward County Public School conspires with Judge Manno-Schurr to enable Parental Alienation, a severe form of child abuse. http://iloveandneedmydaughter.blogspot.com/2013/04/reckless-disregard-true-and-compelling.html
Broward County Public School conspires with Judge Manno-Schurr to enable Parental Alienation, a severe form of child abuse.

Those who perpetrate alienation not only manipulate the child but often manipulate other people, even professionals, in their war against the targeted parent. This commonly happens as “triangulation” – when one parent (usually the abuser or alienator) uses a third party, like a teacher or school principal, to play against the other parent.

“Changing a child last name (away from the father’s) is an act of venom”

“Changing a child last name (away from the father’s) is an act of venom”

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Parental alienation has various definitions but in a nutshell is when one parent works to damage a child’s relationship with the other parent (known as the “targeted parent”). As a result of alienation, child who previously had a close, loving, healthy (not abusive) relationship with the “targeted parent” then becomes estranged, hostile or rejects that parent. Many consider alienation a form of child abuse. The alienator may also elicit others—like educators—to similarly hate, reject or become hostile toward the other parent.

When alienation occurs in the school setting, the results are devastating: usually there is breakdown in communication between one parent and the educators (who have taken the side of the alienating parent, and may view the “targeted” parent in a negative light). The school may consciously or unconsciously reinforce the power and control tactics of the alienator, and sometimes the educators will even become personally involved in family court or custody litigation.

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There are cases where an educator has become so aligned with one parent that they will give that parent a favorable impression to the court while becoming hostile towards the “targeted parent”; finding fault, blaming and criticizing that parent, even in areas that have nothing to do with the child’s education.

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False Domestic Violence Accusations and Restraining Orders For Court-Sponsored Parental Alienation

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False Protection Orders To Enable Parental Alienation is Child Abuse

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This issue is one that has been brought to my attention on many occasions and it is something that not only infuriates me, due to the forced abuse on the child or children involved, but the fact that some Family Courts are enabling this abuse and any child abuse is illegal under all Laws in every state and yet some courts and judges are actually encouraging it and ignoring the devastation that it causes on the innocent victim the child or children who irrespective of how much their parents may hate each other, they still love them unconditionally as mom & dad, and should be allowed to have both in their lives.

A Protective Order is issued or should be issued solely to protect one person from another and possibly a child if there has been proven abuse on this child and on the person filing for the order. However far too many women in particular are Abusing the courts and these orders so that they can keep the child away from their father. This is not out of fear NO this is out of them manipulating the system and playing victim when in many cases, they are the abuser and they are who the child needs protecting from and not the loving dad. A proportion of attorneys are as guilty as these women are as they know full well that there is no need for a order of protection but the $$$$ is more important to them, rather than the welfare of a child which should be paramount in any court.

Far too many women are now abusing these orders so that they can ensure their ex and the father of their child can’t see, speak or have visitation with their child. As to do so would be to breach the order of protection that the mom filed and sadly many file it out of malice and not out of any fear at all. He is in a catch 22 situation. Either he risks contacting her so as to organize to spend time with his child or children and she files a breach of the order, OR he has to follow the order and then his rights under any Custody Order are been breached as he can’t get to spend the time with his child or children. This is called Parental Alienation and under the US Senate it is considered a form of Child Abuse. So why are so many Judges and Attorney’s getting away with Enabling the Abuse of an innocent child without them having a basis to do so.

No child asks to have a particular mom or dad, but they love them all the same. And yet these children are been used as pawns just so that one vindictive and controlling parent usually the abuser herself but who has filed for the Protection Order, simply so as to hurt her ex and because she knows that she can. This is wrong and these women should be held accountable for their actions I know of one incident were the father was not even notified of the court proceedings, nor his attorney and an Extended Protection Order was granted and he now hasn’t seen his child in months, solely because she is too young to contact directly and he doesn’t want to be charged with breaching the order. This is total Child Abuse and very wrong and criminal in my opinion.

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Alienated Parents Get Blame For Everything Bad?

Are Alienated Parents Blamed For Everything Bad? | Ryan Thomas Speaks I Child of Parental Alienation to Reunited Son

In this Video I answer Amy’s Question: Are alienated parents blamed for everything bad that happens in the child’s life?

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Happy Birthday Zoraya!

We Love You,  We Think About You,  We Miss You,  All the Time!

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She’s a soft cool rain on a hot summer’s day.

She makes me laugh with the funny things she has to say.

She’s the beat of my heart, and the air that I breathe.

She’s the sun and the wind, and autumn’s golden leaves.

She’s the pride that I feel when I know she’s done what’s right.

She’s that warm feeling I get, when I remember tucking her in at night.

You are a princess in my heart, and I care for you so much.I love the fondness in your eyes and your tender little touch.

I looked at you when you were born,And knew then straight away,That I would be forever hereTo watch you grow and play.

You bring to me a heart of joy, and memories so great,And a powerful sense of fatherhood that no one can debate.

I use to watch you sleep and dream of things that I can only wonder.

That innocent look upon your face just made my heart grow fonder.

I use to see you run and jump and shout and calling out my name…Papi!!

No love that I have ever known could ever feel the same.

No suffering or tragedy nor deeply seated pain could ever over shadow the bond that we retain.

And so my little princess before you go to sleep, Remember I am your daddy and I am yours to keep.

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Happy Birthday to You!

We Love and Miss You So Much Zoraya!!

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The Constitutional Right of Parents to the Care, Custody and Nurturing of their Children.

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Yesterday Fathers and Families Ohio Director was featured in their latest newsletter. Don Hubin and I have an extensive history that goes back to when he brought me into the Father’s Rights movement with an organization called Parents And Children for Equality (PACE). As a Chapter Director, one of the first assignment that I had was working on the writing of what was the very first equal custody bill ever introduced in any state legislature (HB232).

I will not go into a lot of detail but that became a real eye opener on the workings of State Government and what it takes to create a law and what is need in preparation to trying to get that law passed. I can go into the many failings of Don during that process of that bill but that experience set my resolve to get this job done for every parent across the country.

He his latest rambling for F&F he attempts to fall back on the old Constitutional Rights argument that has failed in every level of the courts and is one that I broke away from using long ago. As Senator Skindell told me when I was able to completely explain the argument, “It is too complicated and will go over a legislator’s head”.

The question that needs to be posed to Don Hubin is why when there was a bill introduced that met all these requirements that you are now calling for, why did you choose to block that legislation? Is it because you didn’t do it Don and Fathers and Families could not profit from a successful bill passing? Hate to tell you Don, that mythical pot of gold does not exist.

The best thing that we can all do is tell them to stay away. Take your fund raising efforts to the suckers that you continue to hornswoggle with your words that you fail to back up with action and go away for the betterment of every parent in the nation.

BTW- What the real truth on Fathers and Families and their actions during SB144

That is why I continue to press the single question of “Why do we remove fit parents from the lives of our children?” Like the asking for a legal definition of “Best Interest of the Child” it is the loaded question that can be explained by anyone.  ~~  

— News  –  Jul 19, 2013


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Below are excerpts of case law from state appellate and federal district courts and up to the U.S. Supreme Court, all of which affirm, from one perspective or another, the absolute Constitutional right of parents to actually BE parents to their children.

The rights of parents to the care, custody and nurture of their children is of such character that it cannot be denied without violating those fundamental principles of liberty and justice which lie at the base of all our civil and political institutions, and such right is a fundamental right protected by this amendment (First) and Amendments 5, 9, and 14. ~ Doe v. Irwin, 441 F Supp 1247; U.S. D.C. of Michigan, (1985).Amendment 14 US Constitution - 2015

The several states have no greater power to restrain individual freedoms protected by the First Amendment than does the Congress of the United States. Wallace v. Jaffree, 105 S Ct 2479; 472 US 38, (1985).

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Despite my efforts at the present time there is NO timesharing-visitation NO communication AND access is blocked by the custodial parent.

How can a noncustodial parent have visitation when no agreement was submitted with the divorce and custody order? Mother awarded custody with father being given liberal visitation. Mother dictates visitation schedule however she wants. At the present time there is no visitation with minor child and communication access is blocked by the custodial parent. What does the father need to do to get a visitation schedule? If all the final order says is dad has "liberal visitation" then it is not a complete order. Dad has to file a lawsuit to demand a specific "liberal visitation" schedule that mom has to abide by. Dad should also politely send emails requesting visitation, and let mom look ridiculous when she denies or gives ridiculous options for dad to follow.  Gist being, he needs to file for specific visitation rights with the court, which means filing a lawsuit to get the court to issue a specific order. Thank you. The father has filed a motion for custody and visitation with a request for a hearing date. The father is waiting to hear from the court.
How can a noncustodial parent have visitation when no agreement was submitted with the divorce and custody order? Mother awarded custody with father being given liberal visitation. Mother dictates visitation schedule however she wants. At the present time there is no visitation with minor child and communication access is blocked by the custodial parent. What does the father need to do to get a visitation schedule?
If all the final order says is dad has “liberal visitation” then it is not a complete order. Dad has to file a lawsuit to demand a specific “liberal visitation” schedule that mom has to abide by. Dad should also politely send emails requesting visitation, and let mom look ridiculous when she denies or gives ridiculous options for dad to follow. Gist being, he needs to file for specific visitation rights with the court, which means filing a lawsuit to get the court to issue a specific order. Thank you. The father has filed a motion for custody and visitation with a request for a hearing date. The father is waiting to hear from the court.

– noncustodial parent –Stolen - 2016

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PLEASE HELP ZORAYA Children need both parents to be involved in their lives even when parents don't live together anymore!
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Children need both parents to be involved in their lives even when parents don’t live together anymore!
Judges merely redirect the dysfunction of one parent as a means to achieve an equitable settlement without regard for children. Prospective lawyers to become judges practice under a code of ethics where they are only allowed to have regard their clients and not the children. A prospect practices under these rules of engagement for 20-30m years before a simple letter of appointment to the bench. They can in no way be expected to have regard for children after this indoctrination. The code of ethics for those lawyers practicing family law needs to change before anything gets better for children. Just know the enemy of your children are the lawyers and judges themselves. https://youtu.be/gYwrJHxfWgQ?list=PLED6CE6FEA630E99E
Judges merely redirect the dysfunction of one parent as a means to achieve an equitable settlement without regard for children. Prospective lawyers to become judges practice under a code of ethics where they are only allowed to have regard their clients and not the children. A prospect practices under these rules of engagement for 20-30m years before a simple letter of appointment to the bench. They can in no way be expected to have regard for children after this indoctrination.
The code of ethics for those lawyers practicing family law needs to change before anything gets better for children.  Just know the enemy of your children are the lawyers and judges themselves.

Denial of reasonable access to your own kids is child abuse

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