I personally know what it is like to grow up thinking your Dad doesn’t care about you.

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 I personally know what it is like to grow up thinking your Dad doesn’t care about you. It’s not the kind of feeling that helps you, to succeed at the the things you aspire to do, and be.

To others I would like to say that, regardless of what your mother told you, or whatever you thought, there is 2 sides to every story, and you should get your Dads side of the story, it may surprise you, to know how much he really does care. And even if it doesn’t turn out as you’d like, what would you loose, absolutely nothing!

Or how family court did not support his presence in your life. Getting his side of the story, could provide you with healing, and an overflowing amount of love, that you may not of even realized was possible.

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This is me without my daughter

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This is me without my daughter I don’t pray much but when I do I ask for you!!!!! My prayer for today is for you my baby girl . Father in heaven I ask you in The truths name Father Father I ask that my prayer be heard like thunder and lightning to the ears of all man all daddies all mommies Father In heaven I ask for your help she’s innocent she’s true I know she comes from you !! So I ask and I pray for you!!! your will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Your son Jason.

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A living bereavement

When ESTHER RANTZEN spoke up for couples denied access to their grandchildren she triggered a flood of heart rending stories revealing the agony of family breakdown’s forgotten victimsremoval-of-fit-loving-parent-is-child-abuse-2016

  • Esther has received more than 250 letters from suffering grandparents
  • Jane Jackson has not seen her own granddaughter for seven years
  • Family rifts leave grandparents broken-hearted
  • Worry that their grandchildren don’t know they are deeply loved

Being told I could never see my toddler grandson again, would make me feel as though my heart had been plucked out of my chest. Yet I have received more than 250 letters from grandparents who are suffering that agony now.

They tell me it’s like a living bereavement and they think about their grandchildren every day. The greatest agony they feel is the worry that those children may not know how deeply they are loved and missed.

These desperate letters were written to me after I made a film for BBC’s The One Show exposing the misery of grandparents denied access to their grandchildren. Tonight I will be revisiting the subject, for the same programme.

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Parents Affected by Parental Alienation ~ Stages of Grief

sad childUnderstanding Stages of Grief applied to Parents Affected by Parental Child Abduction / Alienation / Retention | Parental Kidnapping and Abduction Recovery.

Source: Medium.com

“The death of a child is indisputably one of the most incredibly horrible tragedies one can imagine. Whether by sudden accidental circumstance, or by a more lengthy cause as in illness, the loss of a child is undeniably painful to experience. Painful to the parents, parents to the family, and painful to anyone related to the child.

Never knowing the laughter of that child again or the tears, the joys and the accomplishments is a pain no parent should ever have to endure, and yet it happens. No one might be to blame. It can just happen”. (Tim Line)

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Alienation by Fire

We’ve all heard of the term “Baptism by Fire” but, I wonder how many have ever considered its meaning. In the Christian biblical sense, it essentially means that it is a baptism by the spirit and the trial of one’s faith. This means that a believer’s faith is tested or tried through some sort of difficulty or a series of mental and physical trials.

However, this meaning has largely been replaced and the meaning most often used according to the definition used by the Oxford dictionary is, ‘a difficult introduction to a new job or activity’. One example of this is of a soldier’s first experience of battle. ‘Baptism’ because battle is new to him and ‘fire’ from the firing of guns that is, he is ‘under fire’.

When we look at both explanations, we can actually see similarities that can be equated to the tests of which we face through the struggles in the alienation of our children. This is when we are tested in our faith that we will be reunited with our children. The other aspect of this, is that alienation is new to us and how we respond to the many obstacles is critical.i-survived-parental-alianation-2016

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To Be Immune from Parental Alienation Allegations, Just Don’t Alienate Your Children from Their Dad

There is one disturbing side to the fight of some women denying parental alienation syndrome.

To Be Immune from Parental Alienation Allegations, Just Don’t Alienate Your Children from Their Dad

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Take The Bait

  1. Lawyers are predominately paid by the hour. They want you to PAY for COMMON KNOWLEDGE INFORMATION that exists within their industry while they can try to create conflict within your divorce. The scary part… only one of the two parties involved needs to “take the bait” and the other is forced to defend him/herself. Judges are lawyers elected into their respective position. Lawyers make donations into election / re-election funds of Judges. Are you aware that a Judge can continuously rule in favor of a firm and then get hired by that firm after they leave the bench? How much of this scenario defines “Justice” to you? Time=Money. Your money. The Family Court is a multi-BILLION dollar industry which goes unaudited and for the most part, unchecked.

  1. Missouri needs to proactively define it’s position for the Family Court, through law, regarding the complete protection and support of equal rights regarding the parent-child relationship before, during and after all divorce proceedings and modifications. Doing so, puts all parties “on notice” that the court will not tolerate anything but an amicable and fair solution if the case goes to trial, based on custody time requested by each party (except where certain custody restrictions are already in place due to statute).

  1. Creation of the “Fair Parent Initiative” requiring the courts to take a proactive stance to uphold the parent-child relationship with each parent through respective custody time. This includes requiring all parties involved (Spouses, Lawyers and the Judge) to sign a document explaining Missouri’s position and protection of the parent-child relationship. The document would also inform the parties of the commonly referred to “Ziegenthaler custody plan” (every other weekend, one night a week, plus holidays and vacation… etc).

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Very Common and Equally Painful as Any Kind of Child Abuse

Psychological Abuse: More Common and Equally Devastating as Other Child Maltreatment | TIME.com

Psychological abuse — including demeaning, bullying and humiliating — may be the most prevalent form of child maltreatment.

Yet it’s among the hardest to identify or to treat

It may be the most common kind of child abuse — and the most challenging to deal with. But psychological abuse, or emotional abuse, rarely gets the kind of attention that sexual or physical abuse receives.

That’s the message of a trio of pediatricians, who write this week in the journal Pediatrics with a clarion call to other family doctors and child specialists: stay alert to the signs of psychological maltreatment. Its effects can be every bit as devastating as those of other abuse.

Psychological maltreatment can include terrorizing, belittling or neglecting a child, the pediatrician authors say.

(MORE:Child Abuse Pediatricians Recommend Basic Parenting Classes to Reduce Maltreatment and Neglect)

“We are talking about extremes and the likelihood of harm, or risk of harm, resulting from the kinds of behavior that make a child feel worthless, unloved or unwanted,” Harriet MacMillan, one of the three pediatrician authors, told reporters.

What makes this kind maltreatment so challenging for pediatricians and for social services staff, however, is that it’s not defined by any one specific event, but rather by the nature of the relationship between caregiver and child. That makes it unusually hard to identify.

Keeping a child in a constant state of fear is abuse, for example. But even the most loving parent will occasionally lose their cool and yell. Likewise, depriving a child of ordinary social interaction is also abuse, but there’s nothing wrong with sending a school-aged boy to stew alone in his room for an hour after he hits a younger sibling. All of this means that, for an outsider who observes even some dubious parenting practice, it can be hard to tell whether a relationship is actually abusive, or whether you’ve simply caught a family on a bad day.

(MORE:How Child Abuse Primes the Brain for Future Mental Illness)

Psychological abuse can also include what you might call “corrupting a child” — encouraging children to use illicit drugs, for example, or to engage in other illegal activities.

In their Pediatrics paper, MacMillan and co-authors say that 8% to 9% of women and 4% of men reported severe psychological abuse in childhood when the question was posed in general-population surveys of the U.S. and Britain. A number of U.S. surveys have also found that more adults claim they faced psychological maltreatment as kids than claim they experienced any other form of abuse. This suggests that psychological maltreatment may be the most common form of abuse inflicted on kids.

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Denial of reasonable access to your own kids is child abuse​

Denial of reasonable access to your own kids is child abuse

January 24th, 2015 – I expressed my concerns for Zoraya’s behavior to three Supervised Visitation Monitor/Reporter after visit with daughter. For Zoraya’s safety and well-being!! The Supervised Visitation Supervisor Linda Fieldstone referred me back to Judge Manno-Schurr and she unjustly suspended my visits and contact with Zoraya..It’s okay to be with one of my children but not the other???

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PETITIONER/FATHER’S AMENDED SUPPLEMENTAL PETITION TO MODIFY VISITATION/TIMESHARING, AND ESTABLISH PARENTING PLAN

I, David M. Inguanzo in Propia Persona, being sworn, certify that the following information is true:

The parties to this action were granted a Final Judgment of Paternity on July 8th, 2010. That said Final Judgment and documents incorporated thereto, established the Timesharing and Parental Responsibility of the parties with the subject minor child, ZN, date of birth October 5th, 2006. A copy of the Final Judgment of Paternity dated 7/8/2010 is attached hereto and incorporated herein as Exhibit A.

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Source: petition: Denial of reasonable access to your own kids is child abuse, Miami, FL